How To Develop Self-confidence & Self-worth

Here I will explain the process of how to develop self-confidence and a strong sense of self-worth. In particular, after experiencing a trauma.

Here’s a snippet of my own journey:

The first day I walked into my very first therapist’s office, she told me something I’ll never forget:

“This journey is about you learning to listen to your intuition again”.

It really hit home, and yet it felt foreign all at the same time. I remember having a strong intuition as a child, yet losing self-trust completely when I perceived that my intuition betrayed me. Layers upon layers, years upon years – it all unraveled. It’s not my intuition that deceived me. It’s listening to the voices of others above my own needs and truth.

The process of developing self-confidence and self-worth is a slow process; the shift WILL happen, and the confidence WILL return once you practice listening to your BODY (this is where your intuition lives).

What does a lack of self-confidence and self-worth through trauma look like?

• Trauma threatens our sense of self-worth because it makes us question ourselves – it shakes the very core of our being.
• Suddenly, we can’t make decisions, and we stop listening to ourselves because we might feel like our intuition has let us down.
• There is this sense that if we do listen to ourselves, we’ll get into a threatening and painful situation again.

But at the same time, trauma can teach us.

What can our experience with trauma teach us?

• Trauma can teach us huge self-lessons in self-trust because if we look deeply, we’ll see that we weren’t the problem.
• It can teach us that the problem was a pattern of not listening to our intuition, of people pleasing, of putting ourselves last on the priority list.

How can we start to build self-confidence and self-worth after trauma?

The healing process is gradual and involves starting to listen to our truth in very small ways. This truth is a whisper, not a scream. As we take tiny steps of listening to our intuition, we build the capacity of self-trust back up.

Please be gentle with yourself.

Please remember that it takes time for your mind and body to align again, and it will happen if you keep practicing.

If you want to dive in deeper, you can find more information and tips on my Instagram and my website.