SECURE YOUR PLACE
You're not stuck because you haven't done enough.
You’re high-functioning and capable , but on the inside, your nervous system is still organized around avoiding abandonment.
That survival loop quietly shapes your relationships, your drive to achieve, your sense of safety, and why nothing ever feels fully settled, no matter how much work you’ve done.
This work shows you how to finally exit that loop — in your relationships, your success, and your sense of safety.
I’ve done so much inner work… so why can't I just get what I want in my relationships, work and life?
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Unburdened Heart
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Starts February 11th | 3 months | Live 90-minute weekly classes Wednesdays 10am PST/1pm EST
Over a year ago, I left a 14-year marriage that I thought was my forever home. It gave me a lot of perceived safety. For a long time, staying and “doing the work,” working with our many triggers, felt like the responsible, mature thing to do.
What I didn’t realize was subtle: I didn’t know what my needs and desires actually were. I had learned to do “the right thing” all the time, what I was supposed to do over listening to what I wanted or needed.
I truly believed that if I just did everything “right,” life would eventually give me what I wanted.
Leaving felt terrifying. My body was convinced I wouldn’t survive it. I was sure I’d fall apart financially and emotionally, and feel more alone with every passing day.
And I want to be clear: this work is not about leaving relationships. Many of my clients do this work and stay — with more vulnerability, safety, intimacy and connection than they’ve ever known. For me, this was simply the place where I could no longer keep abandoning myself.
What surprised me most was that none of my worst fears came true.
Instead, I discovered capacity I didn’t know I had. I built a soul family that deeply supported me. I spent real time alone — and to my own surprise, I enjoyed it.
And no — I did not die.
I feel more alive than ever. My sense of safety is no longer built around avoiding abandonment by staying in situations where I was deeply lonely because I wasn’t truly seen.
My safety now lives inside me. It’s in speaking my truth and saying no in small, everyday moments. It’s in sitting on my porch, looking at nature, and drinking my matcha. Feeling at peace.
This year, I cried with my chosen family many times. One of those times, I drove past the old apartment I shared with my ex-husband and started crying hard. When I arrived at our get-together, instead of putting my “poker face” on, I texted them, “I am in the car and I need a hug.”
They came out and held me as I fell apart.
I felt profoundly safe, chosen, and supported. I no longer feel alone in this world.
My safety is here — built slowly and gently, through healing the parts of me that felt abandoned in childhood.
That little girl has me now. I stay.
And together, we know we can handle whatever comes.
I built a life that looked safe on the outside — while quietly abandoning myself on the inside.
like when someone takes longer to text back, a client hesitates, your partner seems distant, or you feel the urge to explain yourself one more time so everything stays okay.
You start noticing the exact moment your body goes into “don’t lose them” mode
This work helps you stop living from the quiet fear of being left,
and start living from the safety that actually stays inside of you.
Inside the program, this looks like:
Over 9 weeks, you’ll learn how to stop living out of the constant survival pattern of avoiding abandonment — and start relating, working, and living from internal safety, ease, and deep connection:
you feel the reaction in your body from a gentle, loving, self compassionate space. ays okay.
Instead of automatically fixing, performing, or people-pleasingYou start noticing the exact moment your body goes into “don’t lose them” mode
pausing before you overgive, before you say yes when you mean no, before you twist yourself into being “easy” or “low maintenance” so no one leaves.
In real time, you learn how to stay with yourself
you don’t need to rescue the moment, smooth the tension, or be the responsible one who holds everything together.
You feel steadier letting things be imperfect without panicking.
The fixing urge softens
not what would make other people happy, not what’s “mature” or “right,” but what’s true for you in your body.
You begin to feel what you actually want and need
- You say no without a long explanation.
- You let someone be disappointed without collapsing.
- You ask for support instead of pretending you’re fine.
- You stop abandoning yourself to keep connection.
Small but radical shifts start happening:
Receiving stops feeling dangerous
You feel more real, more seen, and more relaxed being yourself.
Your relationships feel different
but around your capacity to stay with yourself through discomfort, truth, and change.
Your sense of safety shifts from external to internal
Your triggers stop running your behavior. Learn exactly how abandonment and rejection live in your nervous system — and why they override logic and communication skills. Practice the tools to work with your triggers in real time.
Stop Being Hijacked by Abandonment & Rejection
Week 1
Program Details
Dismantle and rewire the outdated definition of safety that equates being liked, needed, or chosen with stability and security. Your system begins to recognize internal safety — not approval — as the baseline.
Redefining Safety (So You Stop Self-Abandoning)
Week 2
You start being gentle with yourself, reducing the pressure and feeling more internal ease. Meet moments of activation, disappointment, or perceived rejection with stability rather than self-criticism or urgency. This session teaches Mindful Self-Compassion as a practical, in-the-moment nervous-system skill — not positive self-talk. Offer yourself the kind of support that interrupts survival responses.
Shifting Exhasting Looping with Mindful Self Compassion
Week 3
You see — and can exit — your exact pattern in relationships.
Identify the specific ways you over-give, over-adapt, shut down, or stay too long. Once the loop is felt in the body, it stops feeling inevitable.
The Relational Loop That Keeps Repeating
Week 4
Let’s work with the part of you that learned early on that having needs was unsafe, and that you have to work hard for love. Practice a go to somatic inner child process that allows you to interrupt abandonment reactions as they happen, instead of being at the mercy of external forces to feel calm and centered.
Stop Reacting from the Wounded Part
Week 5
You can feel deeply without being flooded or shut down. Stay present with emotion in daily life without bypassing, intellectualizing, or pushing through. Emotions stop dictating your decisions — and stop being something you fear.
Feeling Emotions Without Letting Them Take Over
Week 6
You can say no, ask for what you need, and stay connected to yourself and others through gentle, loving boundaries. While noticing the guilt and shame that come up, you’ll still be able to speak your truth, take others on, and show up as yourself fully in relationships without being harsh, rigid, or silencing yourself.
Loving Boundaries
Week 7
Start Date: February 11th 2026
90 minute classes | 10-11:30AM PST | 1-2:30PM EST
3 sessions/month with 1 week off each month
Each 90-minute session weaves together teaching, somatic practices, journaling, and breakout rooms, plus live Q+A and coaching — so this isn’t something you just understand, it’s something your body actually learns.
This structure is designed to help you feel your patterns in real time, interrupt them gently, and practice new ways of relating while you’re supported. Over time, this builds real safety, trust, and integration — not just insight.
You’ll leave each session with tools you can use in everyday moments: when you feel triggered, start overthinking, want to fix, or feel that familiar fear of being left. This is how the work moves off the call and into your relationships, your work, and your life — transforming things from the inside out.
You finally let support and love in, without feeling like you have to work hard for it in return. You retrain the nervous system to receive care, love, and attunement without immediately giving back, minimizing, or shutting down. This is real self nourishment and connection that feels intimate and real.
Receiving Without Over-Functioning
Week 8
You rewire your blueprint of living life out of fearful survival mode, oriented towards avoiding abandonment, and create a vision of connection that actually sustains you - where you can be fully you. You integrate everything into a new relational operating system — one rooted in choice, desire, and sovereignty. You leave knowing what healthy, nourishing connection feels like in your body.
Relationships That Nourish
Week 9
*Session details are subject to change.
PLUS THESE BONUSES
Recordings of every session so you never miss a class
Journaling prompts + somatic practices each week for deeper integration
Private reflection community for sharing insights and asking your questions between sessions
Early enrollment includes:
The first 3 to join receive 24 hours of Voxer voice + text coaching with me
We’ll choose a day within the program timeframe that works for both of us. You can bring what you’re navigating, and we’ll explore and clarify your patterns to shift them together.
The first 5 receive my signature course, Treasure’s in the Trigger
A body-based framework for working with strong reactions so they don’t take over your experience.
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Marina
About
I’m Marina Triner, a Somatic Life & Business Coach for over 10 years. I’ve supported thousands of people to heal childhood relational patterns that have been wired in them all their lives so they can create lives and relationships that feel authentic, aligned, and free. Most importantly - I am a chronic over-giver and fixer and have been able to implement these exact tools I am teaching you for myself, seeing profound shifts in my relationships and my career.
I know how heavy it is to always be operating out of a fear of abandonment in my freaking bones. I don't suggest that this work will make that go away - it will help you notice it, but not act out of it.
I no longer act out of these survival patterns all the time. I've found deep peace and safety within myself that is unshakable. I've found friendships that make me feel grateful to be alive, and a career that brings me deep meaning and fulfillment.